My ex rarely calls unless it’s about our son, so when his name flashed on my phone, I knew something was wrong. He got straight to the point: “Sydney, I need you to pause child support for six months.”
At first, I thought he was joking. Then he explained why. “My wife needs a new car. Hers is falling apart. And honestly? You don’t really need the money anyway.”
That’s when I realized this wasn’t about our child at all.
Child support isn’t a favor—it’s a responsibility. For years, I’ve covered the gaps he left, protecting our son from stress. Every instinct told me to refuse. Instead, I calmly said, “Okay. Let’s talk next week at drop-off.” He sounded pleased, convinced I’d agreed.
At drop-off the following week, I handed him an envelope. He smiled, probably thinking it was a written agreement.
Inside was a short letter:
Since you won’t be paying child support for the next six months, I’ll also be taking a break. Our son will be living with you full-time during that period. Please be prepared to take on all financial, educational, and medical responsibilities.
His face immediately drained of color. He called it ridiculous and said I couldn’t just decide that. I didn’t argue. I simply left.
Three days later, he texted that he “couldn’t manage” full-time parenting because his wife was “under a lot of stress.” A week after that, the full payment came through with one message: “Please go back to the regular schedule.”
Later that night, his wife contacted me separately. She apologized and said she never asked for this and didn’t even want a new car.
Maybe my response seemed petty. But I’m exhausted from being the only adult in the room who understands what responsibility truly means.