He grew up in a dance studio, quietly watching his mother work. There were no babysitters — if Patsy choreographed, he was there, absorbing every step. Born on August 18, 1952, in Houston, he was raised between his father’s engineering discipline and his mother’s artistic world. As she once said, “He wanted to do everything… I guess you could call him hyper, but he just has to be busy all the time.”
But being busy wasn’t the issue — being different was. In 1960s Texas, a boy carrying ballet shoes and a violin stood out. His brother remembered one cruel moment: “He had his dance shoes in one hand and a violin in the other… ‘Hey, twinkle your toes for us, pretty boy.’” The bullying turned physical. His father’s strict advice was clear: “If I ever see you start a fight, I’ll kick your [expletive]. And if I ever see you not finish a fight, I’ll kick your [expletive].” His mother urged him to take his ballet shoes and “beat the snuff” out of anyone who mocked him. Eventually, the teasing slowed. He learned that strength meant refusing to apologize for who he was.
A knee injury ended his football dreams, pushing him fully toward dance. By 20, he moved to New York to train intensely. Hollywood followed. After roles in The Outsiders and other films, Dirty Dancing made him a global star. The boy once mocked for dancing became a symbol of strength and grace.
Off-screen, life was harder. He and his wife Lisa Niemi faced miscarriages. “Trying to deal with fame, I got stupid and drank too much,” he later admitted. After his sister’s death, he confessed, “Her death changed my life… I started to feel like I was cursed.”
Diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in 2008, he kept working. He died on September 14, 2009 — remembered not just for fame, but for never putting down the ballet shoes that once made him a target.