Losing someone close can bring powerful emotions and the urge for a final physical goodbye. As the article notes, “Losing a loved one can trigger deep emotional responses, including the desire to give a final kiss as a goodbye.” While this act may feel meaningful, it can involve health risks that are often ignored during grief.
A major concern is bacterial infection. “After death, the body’s immune system stops functioning, allowing natural bacteria to multiply rapidly.” Bacteria that were harmless during life can become dangerous after death, especially through direct contact like kissing.
Viruses are another risk. Certain viruses, including HIV, hepatitis, or tuberculosis, may survive briefly after death. If the person died from an infectious illness, contact with bodily fluids or mucous membranes can expose others to these pathogens.
As decomposition begins, the body releases fluids and gases filled with microorganisms. Touching these fluids may cause skin or stomach infections, while inhaling gases can irritate the lungs or lead to respiratory problems, particularly for people with weaker immune systems.
There are emotional risks as well. “Kissing a deceased person may leave behind traumatic or disturbing memories that can intensify the grieving process rather than offer closure.” Instead of comfort, the experience may deepen distress and complicate healing.
Other dangers include cross-contamination at funerals and reactions to embalming chemicals. Safer ways to say goodbye can still be meaningful, such as holding a hand, gently touching the forehead, or simply standing in quiet presence. Choosing to protect one’s health is also a way of showing care and respect for the person who has passed.